the human condition

Girls, you don't want to be thought of as a slut.. so you try to not make it easy for us. But don't ever assume that a guy who is talking to you wants to be just friends. Because he doesn't. Guys talk to girls for very few reasons. And being your buddy isn't one of em. I'm not saying that they don't eventually settle or that there aren't exceptions to this rule. What I am saying is that it is safer to assume that he wants you on your back butt naked than confide in you, emotions and all. I can guarantee he has already pictured you, clothes removed, and that his motivation to pursue you is driven by the lack of satisfaction with a mental image. He is not worried about where to take you on the first date, rather he revels at the possibility of getting laid. But don't let that discourage you. That is not my intention.

Guys will always have those thoughts regardless of how you label them. It doesn't matter where you meet them or how you do. It's more important that you just understand that part about us and move on. We are but simple creatures, with few bottom-line desires and you girls insist on giving those to us so easily, so readily. It's difficult being the girl he wants to introduce to his family and having good symmetry just doesn't cut it. Contrary to what you may believe, every guy wants to meet that special someone. Some of them don't acknowledge it or appreciate it. But at the end of it all, and I do mean life, what we have left is only the memory. Not the memory of all the girls we've been with, but that of the one who called us out on our bullshit and said "I'm your one." So step up. Courting isn't just about how men get women, it's also about how women keep men around.

I get it, we all like sex, but I just met you an hr ago. Being easy makes it very difficult for me to think of you as anything more than just a slut and any future attempt to convince me otherwise has already been foiled by your previous actions. Simply putting out early isn't a strategy to keep a man around, at least for the right reasons. All that it leads to is you being one or two booty calls away from never hearing from the guy again. So, if not being accessible sexually drives him away, then he clearly is or was not that into you.