Wednesday, December 28, 2011
"to be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved"
Trust is tragic. Moreso than hate, jealousy, and even unrequited love. It is the foundation for any relationship and without it... well you got nothing reliable. It is something we should cherish but its far too often overlooked. A term so loosely used and vaguely defined, people sometimes question the very existence of the word. I could only tell you what it means to me, much like many things in life. The phrase, "it depends" seems to cloud any concrete definition of the word. But nevertheless, an attempt will be made...
Much like love, you have to lose trust to fully understand it. Trust between lovers is not the same trust between friends. It's also not the same trust between family or between man and dog. It doesn't carry the same weight or warrant the same emotions.
It's this paperthin line that once crossed, has devestating results. You give it away or make someone earn it, but once violated it can rarely ever fully return. So how do we trust? We do so in complicated and sometimes foolish ways. We wouldn't trust a registered sex offender to babysit our child, but we trust our lovers to not cheat again. Its baffling at times who we trust and what we entrust to others, but we need it in all lasting relationships... regardless of who is involved, its depth or seriousness, and the type of association it is.
It boils down to reliability, no matter how you look at it... unreliable people are not trustworthy. Faith and belief in something or someone... a concept, an idea, a truth, a lover, a friend, etc. that is not consistent is brainless but we do it anyway. We trust friends or people to keep secrets... though it no longer is a secret once shared. We instill trust in our teachers to teach us what is required... yet our country lags behind in every academic field. We trust our government to protect us and serve us, though mostly greedy politicians and the 1% benefit. We give trust to our lovers, in marriage or in monogamy to be faithful, honest, and true... though we tend to get fucked over. We trust that if we are good people that good would be returned... though good is often unjustly distributed.
Trust is shared in order for things to build and grow, but we get shafted by those very people or things we believe in... We too often forget the value of trust, and that, I consider, is one of the most tragic human conditions.
title quote, George MacDonald
Much like love, you have to lose trust to fully understand it. Trust between lovers is not the same trust between friends. It's also not the same trust between family or between man and dog. It doesn't carry the same weight or warrant the same emotions.
It's this paperthin line that once crossed, has devestating results. You give it away or make someone earn it, but once violated it can rarely ever fully return. So how do we trust? We do so in complicated and sometimes foolish ways. We wouldn't trust a registered sex offender to babysit our child, but we trust our lovers to not cheat again. Its baffling at times who we trust and what we entrust to others, but we need it in all lasting relationships... regardless of who is involved, its depth or seriousness, and the type of association it is.
It boils down to reliability, no matter how you look at it... unreliable people are not trustworthy. Faith and belief in something or someone... a concept, an idea, a truth, a lover, a friend, etc. that is not consistent is brainless but we do it anyway. We trust friends or people to keep secrets... though it no longer is a secret once shared. We instill trust in our teachers to teach us what is required... yet our country lags behind in every academic field. We trust our government to protect us and serve us, though mostly greedy politicians and the 1% benefit. We give trust to our lovers, in marriage or in monogamy to be faithful, honest, and true... though we tend to get fucked over. We trust that if we are good people that good would be returned... though good is often unjustly distributed.
Trust is shared in order for things to build and grow, but we get shafted by those very people or things we believe in... We too often forget the value of trust, and that, I consider, is one of the most tragic human conditions.
title quote, George MacDonald
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Hi my name is not actually deliciousgook. Recently my boredom has surpassed tolerable levels. So now I spend my time sharing my mostly useless thoughts and opinions with the interwebs. Enjoy.