the human condition

Men are either praised or ridiculed for displaying, what women claim, is our feminine side. Our feminine side is suppose to be sensitive, sympathetic, caring, unselfish, gentle, and a whole host of characteristics and attributes that are traditionally ascribed to women. Conveying this side in moderation is generally appreciated by the opposite sex. To guys, its mostly just called "being a bitch."

One must be wary when portraying these attributes as it isn't always welcomed, to a guy or a girl. It takes the right amount of "getting to know" and also a good amount of context analysis before shedding tears, sharing insecurities, and/or "being a bitch." Most people tend to be pretty reserve when first meeting someone. They don't burden others with things like family illnesses, debts, or heartbreak. That all takes time. Similarly, most men won't show their feminine side, if ever mind you, until a proper break-in period. Though the concept of being feminine is not appealing to men or amongst men, it is worthwhile to express the above characteristics. You just can't let it define you. Instead, let it be a part of who you are. There's a difference.

Women mate with masculine guys. Not dudes with threaded eyebrows, and squeaky voices. They like men with confidence, boldness, and strength. Not uneasiness, cowardice, and mental lethargy. Like men having a feminine side, women should have a masculine side. And I don't mean armpit hair and curly pubes. I'm talking about the personality traits that are considered to be manly. Much like how women expect us to be understanding and thoughtful, we expect women to be decisive and confident.

Similar to the need to know both sides of a story before passing a judgement, men should take advantage of both sides to the spectrum. However, calling it our feminine side is a bit ridiculous. People like to label things, I get it. But it is neither necessary to associate characteristics like being understanding and caring to women nor unite traits such as confidence and decisiveness to men. It is beneficial for both sexes to portray all of the discussed attributes, so lets stop making that distinction.