the human condition

Love is the most complicated, painful, pleasant, and desirable concept ever to be shared between people. We all have our own definition of it and it hardly ever stays the same. There are different types, levels, and even lengths. Its like a video game with a fucked up controller. However, as we age, we figure out that the few things this life has to offer means very little without it. It may take you 15 minutes or 15 years to come to that conclusion, but no matter what, we will all have that realization. I am gonna talk specifically about romantic love, although the feelings shared between family members, friends, etc. is arguably just as important, if not more.

Romantic love comes and goes, some people thrive on it, others lack it. It can be exciting and fulfilling. But destructive and deceiving. Such a complex concept is so tricky to explain. As a kid, nobody ever told me what love was and I didn't utter those words to someone until more recently. Its something that I rarely felt and I found that whenever I did feel something, it wasn't love, but something lesser. It took many years to learn the distinction. Girls I thought I loved... it was merely infatuation. The high I felt being around them was just chemicals telling me that I was interested. Love is above that, its beyond being with someone for "x" amount of time. Its not about what you sacrificed or how you met. Its not that you share music interests or like the same foods. That is not love. Love is purely a mental state that can change, its a mix bag of emotions that you have for another... too often associated with objects and other trivial things. To love someone and to be in love with someone are two very different concepts. Something I'm sure is quite obvious to most people... in theory. However, in reality people get those two things so confused.

The things you do because of love... now that's a whole different story. People do crazy things and its not really up to anyone to judge what a person does in the name of love. And its because nobody can really tell you what it is. Its just something you got to figure out and hope that someone else agrees. Fortunately, we are a world of many people. We are compatible with many, meet a few, but only want to stay with one.

If you've been shaking your head to everything I've said, it doesn't really matter. Go find out for yourself, if you haven't already. Good luck.