the human condition

I am of course talking about the one night stand. Those of you who think its disatisfying, disgusting, distasteful, and other "dis" words I can't think of right now, well let me assure you that my goal isn't to convert you. All I'm saying is that it is a practical alternative to other more time consuming commitments such as relationships and/or dating. We all know that masturbation can only go so far. I mean yeah its a nice release for guys and girls can do it for whatever reason they do it for. But it just doesn't trump the actual act. So we go out to clubs, bars, and other social gatherings alike, to meet someone that we can connect with at some, but mostly superficial, level. To take them home, try new things, and you know the rest. However, it doesn't come without a price. No, I don't mean STDs, although that is a valid concern to have, but taking measures to prevent transmission, ie. condoms, visual inspection, etc. should go without saying. It honestly is a mutual responsibility. Anyway, when I say price, I mean when the people involved aren't necessarily on the same page. For example, when one person wants more or thinks that sex is a precursor to a commited relationship... pretty much anything that is not within the concept of a one night stand. Scary, but some people are that naive. Its seldom a good sign when the other wants to "get dinner sometime" or pick out new curtains for your place after the fact. But hey, if that's your thing, I say, best of luck on your endeavors. Just don't be surprised when the guy or girl never calls you back or take you up on your offer.

There is some science that suggest that those who have multiple sexual partners before marriage have a tendency to be less happy than those who had fewer. While this may be the case for some people (those who participated in the study), I think that having safe sex multiple times with different people throughout your life can be beneficial. A learning experience, I'd call it. Besides, people have one night stands for the same reasons people date, commit to relationships, and fall in and out of love. Because its, in a word, nice. Why should we ever consider forfeiting copulation with no strings attached, if we are allowed to so freely love and hate? Two things that are often far more fucked up and destructive than casual sex. Bottom line, its an option, its a choice we make and I'm sick of people thinking one nighters is such a negative thing, especially when the very people who criticize the idea, would commit the act if given the opportunity. I'm a firm believer that for many things, like this topic, there aren't right or wrong choices. Only choices that you gotta live with. So if you want to raw dog the next girl you sleep with or save yourself for "the one" then so be it.

title quote, Hank Moody, Californication (Ep. 2, Season 1)